Usually when people hear “Drama Queen” they imagine an adult and diplomatic tantrum, a colleague at work making a fuss over a broken nail, a friend at college crying after the exam (only to score a frickin’ 96%!), my mum starring with anger at my hair bun and my peeled nail polish during our Saturday family gathering…
But when I hear “Drama Queen”, I hear Drama and I hear Queen, and I get damn excited! All I can see in-front of me is Mel Gibson in Braveheart standing in the front lines screaming his heart out (FREEDOOOM!). Except that in this case I am Mel Gibson but with shaved legs, L’Oréal Nude Lipstick and a Swarovski sword. A real Queen, in a dramatic battle.
I won’t lie to you, I’ve been accused multiple times of being a Drama Queen myself, my family and friends can sometimes be very judgmental. Stop focusing on the problem girl!
So, naturally, I had to ask Google:
“Problem vs solution”
Google answers:
“Focusing too much on a problem makes you feel powerless; focusing on solutions makes you feel empowered.
Problem-oriented: I’m stuck.
Solution-oriented: Let me sit down and think of some options to move forward.”
I’ve been into this topic for many years now, I googled it, saved it as my screensaver, printed it out and glued it on the wall in my office, made sure to write it in all the workshops I prepared back when I was in The Human Resources field (Training department), mentioned it in a lot of discussions at work, with friends and with family. Yet, I was still confused about my position. I do focus on problems but I believe in solutions. So what does it make me?
A problem oriented, or a solution oriented person?
“Orientation” is moving toward a specific path to reach the goal. And my goal cannot be reached if I go toward the solution. Yet, my goal is the solution. Ok, It got a bit complicated.
I am not oriented toward solutions, I will not search among solutions and pick one. I am oriented toward the problem, I will search in its depth to understand its reason, the source of it, the Why, until I reach the core of all of this mess, the Who, Where, When and the How, and then I will apply a solution that eliminates or manages the core itself.
If I don’t focus on the problem, I won’t decode the source. If I don’t decode the source, I cannot eliminate the core of the problem.
Solutions often eliminate the problem’s outcome, I want to eliminate the problem’s roots.
When I decide I’m ordinary and try to focus on the possible solutions like “it’s supposed to be”, the solutions look just not enough. So I feel irrational, I force myself to pick one and I end up betraying myself through a fast “fix”, which I hate. It’s when you fix the appearance only to look good and competent, or when you fix the current consequences without foreseeing past or future ones that might occur for the same reason.
So yeah, maybe I am a problem oriented person, or a Drama Queen… but as long as my drama is fruitful, then I will surely hold on to the crown!
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